Vulnerability is a sign of strength. Does that resonate with you?
Many of us are raised to believe that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness, but as you will see in this short video by Dr Brene Brown and Oprah Winfrey, it’s the opposite.
In the video, Oprah says that vulnerability is the “cornerstone of confidence”; that when you courageously open yourself up to others, you develop the confidence to be yourself.
What does it mean to be vulnerable? Brene Brown expresses vulnerability beautifully with a poignant example of vulnerability: vulnerability means having the courage to pick up the phone and call someone who has just suffered a great loss.
That takes a lot of courage, and making that call is something people tend to avoid because it’s uncomfortable. Even if you don’t know what to say, make the call… openly admit to them that you don’t know what to say but that you are here for them.
We tend to think of vulnerability in terms of opening ourselves up to attack or harm, and that’s why we don’t want to be vulnerable. It’s perfectly understandable, and yet by closing ourselves off as a protective mechanism, we actually close ourselves off to love, and great experiences.
You can think about it this way: if you open your heart to someone, yes – there is a chance that you will be hurt but there is also a chance, and I believe it to be a significantly higher chance, that your life will be enhanced and enriched by the relationship.
If someone comes into your life and there is a connection, open your heart and let it in. If you live in fear that the relationship won’t work, or that it will end, or that you will be hurt, then you will close yourself off to the possibility and you will miss out on the experience.
Here is a wonderful meditation you can do, to practice being more vulnerable.
Visualize your heart opening, love pouring out to encompass everyone and everything; and as your heart opens, it also becomes open to receive. You can’t let the love out, if your heart remains closed; and you can’t let the love in, without opening your heart.
It takes courage and strength to open your heart to what life has to offer.
So open your heart, and let love, and life, in!