Do you ever feel like something is preventing you from living your life to the max?
You might be surprised to hear that one of the main reasons for feeling like you can’t really begin living, is because you’re self-love tank is running on empty.
Can just a low amount of self-love impact you this much though?
According to author, speaker, soulful teacher, healer and artist, Louise Hay, holding back on our own self-love actually manifests as self-criticism.
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise Hay
What do most of us do when we criticize ourselves harshly?
We quit trying!
After all, if we failed at something once and beat ourselves up about it, why on earth would we go through that pain again?
And so in not trying, we inevitably miss out.
Every time you say to yourself, “I’m not good enough,” or call yourself a loser, or insist that you can’t do something just ‘because’, just remember that you’re actually giving in to those negative thoughts in your head.
And in doing so, you’re missing out on those vital experiences, some of which may be challenging but will enrich your life beyond your wildest dreams.
Don’t miss this short video where Louise explains that self-love is paramount to enjoying life:
What’s wonderful about this short video is that Louise offers such practical advice for dramatically increasing our self-love tanks, so that we can just stop this crazy self-sabotaging way of living.
This naturally allows us to fully embrace the uncertainty, richness and excitement that life has to offer.
Louise explains that we express low self-love by criticizing and scaring ourselves which in turn conspires to diminish our enthusiasm for life.
Could this be one of the main reasons why many of us float through life wishing and hoping for change but never really throwing off our self-imposed shackles and boldly living?
“Self-love helps me make positive changes easily” – Louise Hay
Today, do one thing to make yourself feel better.
Do not offer up a single criticism of yourself. Even if you mess up and make a huge mistake, don’t beat yourself up about it.
Instead, look at yourself with compassion, realizing that you acted the way you did because you were ruled by self-limiting beliefs and fears (many of which have been with you since childhood).
And that’s okay! Because starting right now, you can train yourself to stop automatically reacting according to low level self-love and start demonstrating to yourself that you are a truly amazing person.
While it does take time to raise your self-love tank (especially after a lifetime of emptying it) you can do it. And as you do, your life will change in incredible ways.
So why not Try:
- Stopping all criticism, as this only promotes negative changes and breaks down the beauty of your inner spirit. Acceptance and approval of yourself however is quite the opposite resulting in positive changes.
- Forgiving yourself. Whatever happened, let it go, knowing that you did the best you could at the time with the understanding, knowledge and awareness available to you then. You will grow with your new positive beliefs for the next time.
- Quit scaring yourself with fearful and dreadful thoughts. Switch any of these thoughts immediately to those that excite you.
- Going easy on yourself. As you would someone you loved, be gentle, patient and kind with you! We are human beings, learning from every experience we encounter. When we punish ourselves and get into self hating, we’re only hating our thoughts.
And as Louise says:
“It is only a thought and a thought can be changed”. – Louise Hay
One of the best and most fun ways to love yourself is to try and remember those things that gave you joy as a child.
Then discover ways to incorporate these back into your life now.
Find a way to have fun with everything you do.
It’s time to start loving yourself more than you ever have before, and really start LIVING!