It’s only human to find yourself judging others but have you ever met someone and thought they were rude, only to realize later that they were actually a very kind and genuine person?
Did you feel bad for judging them wrong?
If you have, don’t beat yourself up… just anchor the moment of realization and learn the lesson.
I was told recently about a man who was sitting on a train reading his Sunday paper. A lady across from him was playing solitaire and other passengers were either reading newspapers or books. The atmosphere was very peaceful and relaxing until a man stepped onto the train with three children. The children were boisterous and being very loud and the dad seemed oblivious to the disruption they were causing.
The man, growing more irritated by the minute put down his Sunday paper, walked over to the dad who was texting on his phone, and said “Excuse me sir, do you see that your children are misbehaving?”. The dad stopped texting and looking rather dazed said “Oh, I’m sorry. We’ve just come from the hospital, where my wife has just died. I guess I’m having a little difficulty dealing with this right now, and so are my children.”
The man felt dreadful and his perspective of the situation immediately changed.
Granted, this was an extreme case of pre-judging a situation, however, we all pre-judge others at sometime or another.
Agree or disagree… spend less than three minutes watching this inspiring video by Mind Movies.
The first step is becoming aware that we pre-judge and why. Remember… we are only human!
Our minds work consistently and persistently every minute of the day, making judgements; filtering out or resisting information that is not compatible with our belief patterns.
Our belief patterns guide the way we think and act with others.
When we truly begin to understand how to change and improve our own perspective we can improve the quality of our lives, our experiences, our relationships, our well-being and our success.
Your mind can truly be your greatest friend or your worst enemy.
Lisa V. Proven agrees:
“The happiest people I know are always evaluating and improving themselves. The unhappy people are usually evaluating and judging others.”
More and more people are beginning to realize the importance of keeping calm and relaxed in situations, rather than saying or doing things that they later regret. There will always be situations, people, disappointments, highs and lows when things don’t go the way we had planned. When you keep calm you can begin to see things in a whole new light.
Here’s a TOP TIP for learning how to drastically reduce judging others…
Meditation paves the way for better understanding and compassion toward ourselves and others. It requires no special skills, nor years training. All it really requires is a consistent willingness to “go with the flow” and just a few minutes of your time each day.
A few moments of meditation each day really encourages you to “live in the moment” which puts you in the most ideal states of mind for soulful reflection. Your inner wisdom is found here, which is where every answer to every one of your questions reside.
When practiced regularly, meditation can soothe the mind and boost your self-esteem to levels you never knew existed.
When worrying or critical thoughts are replaced by positive affirmations (also a tremendous benefit of consistent daily moments of meditation) the negative emotions lose their ability to harm and upset us.
Meditation can help you break the cycle of judging others because your mind will become accustomed to positive thoughts and affirmations in the present moment, which of course is exactly where your own super power lies. When you release your negative perspective of others, you will feel a surge of energizing love that will positively affect every aspect of your life and those around you.
The inner calm that meditation provides can also lead to increased intelligence (wisdom) and enhanced creativity. With consistent daily practice, these positive effects compound and become permanently established, leaving you wondering how you ever managed your life without it.
“When we stop judging others and ourselves, our heart begins to open”. ~ Swami Dhyan Giten