The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self. Ego, the false idea of believing that you are what you have or what you do, is a backwards way of assessing and living life. – Wayne Dyer
Wayne Dyer answers your biggest question in this very short video… What is the EGO?
In brief, your ego is made up of all your various beliefs, from childhood to the present day. It is made up of your positive and negative self esteem combined.
It really does not like change very much, for fear of the unknown.
It can also be very often difficult to see, as it hides behind the opinions that we perceive to be the truth.
Usually when your ego is active and hungry, it will appear disguised as a very strong emotion.
Anger with a person we care about for example or a strong need to be right so the other person is wrong.
Feelings of not being good enough and the need to impress others are also triggered by your ego.
It takes time, practice and patience with oneself to really master the art of recognizing when the ego is awakening and hungry for food.
Remember to be patient! It’s taken years of false beliefs built upon one another to result in a very strong but destructive ego.
Most of us notice that we’ve had an ego attack too late, having found we reacted in a way that we don’t feel particularly proud of.
The wonderful thing is you can tame your ego and even stop it at will!
Inner turmoil and conflict will be a thing of the past if you follow just a few simple steps and pay close attention to your feelings.
Try any one of these 10 simple steps to rein your ego in and watch what happens :
- Start paying attention to the voices inside your head! What emotions do they stir up? When you realize that your thoughts and feelings do not own you, you can then unemotionally observe them. Allowing them to continue as they were, without raising inner conflict.
- Begin embracing change (as we know we should) to keep growing and evolving as human beings. Each of us are born equal in human abilities and each of us deserve to enjoy our adventure in this world!
- Begin embracing mistakes and realize their worth. What would we ever learn if we never made mistakes? Let’s not be embarrassed by them and instead be grateful! You may seem a bit odd at first when others see you happy you ‘messed up’ but you know the plan!
- Accept that we are not and never will be perfect! We are a never ending work in progress! If you’re not working on it, start. If you already are, forgive yourself, get back up and get going again.
- Ask for help when it’s needed! There is no shame in this whatsoever! Quite the opposite in fact. There’s help in all library’s, bookstores and the internet on every subject out there including books written by the pioneers of self growth.
“The authentic self is the best part of a human being. It’s the part of you that already cares, that is already passionate about evolution. When your authentic self miraculously awakens and becomes stronger than your ego, then you will truly begin to make a difference in this world. You will literally enter into a partnership with the creative principle.” – Andrew Cohen
- Stop comparing yourself to others. As soon as you realize that you are doing this, quickly direct your attention to what you are grateful for in your own life! If we all use this simple technique every time we compare ourselves, the world will be a much happier place!
- Start really loving yourself, the self that you are already. Not yesterdays self or tomorrows self, today’s self. The self that is pure and kind, not the ego that you think you are.
- Stop worrying right now what others think about you! It really is none of your business, especially if you know you’re giving it your best. Replace any negative retorts with understanding and kindness. The pure self knows perfectly how to do this. Although it’s great and often useful to listen to the opinions of others, when it comes to making changes in your own personal life, start trusting in your own instincts more. Nobody knows what’s right for you more than you do!
- Understand the situation, decide on what’s to be done and act accordingly. Always remain true to yourself. Do not let others manipulate you. You cannot please everybody all of the time.
- Count to ten and breathe deeply! Really, it works. It gives you a little time to process the situation or statement, allowing you to respond in a calmer, less defensive manner. Whilst breathing in deeply just remind yourself ….. “I can handle anything”.
So that was eleven and not ten ways to help you in recognizing and reining your ego in, as I just had to include the simple counting to ten technique. If you only try this one you’ll be amazed!