Suggestion for a very beginner on using the LOA for attracting love?

Hello,

I just started meditation with some goals to achieve, a major one of them being attracting the perfect woman for me (I'm 30, male). My question would be based on this topic. I don't have anybody specific in my mind, but based on the women I dated before and felt happy with or observing my own nature, I can tell what I could expect in my ideal woman, as far as mental, natural and physical characteristics go.

1) Is there any great (unguided/guided) meditation that I can do on a daily/regular basis so as to attract her to me? If yes, could you please give me a link to it or mention that? I've recently ordered Deepak Chopra's guided 'meditation for attracting and being in love' with this in mind. Any opinions?

2) Sometimes they say I need to write down the characteristics of my ideal woman? Should I do that? If yes, how should I let them connect with my meditation phase?

3) From your personal experience or expert opinion, how long does it take to get success, provided I do it regularly (at least 3 times/week)?

Thanks a lot in advance!

 

if you talked to 200 women over the next year, would you agree that you would be more exact on who you are attracted to and why.

 

I can tell you several things from personal experience when it comes to attracting love (or anything really, but we're talking about love here).

As a first step, it's great to have this "list" of what you want the woman to be like, but not to have a particular woman in mind. This list may not sound too romantic, but in the long run, you will want someone you're compatible with, and someone who has a personality you respect and admire. I'll assume you're smart enough to make a list of traits you find respectable and admirable.

But that's only a first step. I had that list for years and nothing happened. In fact, everything else happened: dead end relationships, broken hearts, guys with whom I wasn't compatible, with whom I never even fell in love, let alone had something more serious... you name it - everything came along, except the man fitting the description.

That's where visualization and feeling need to play their part. Those were the two things my list and affirmations were lacking the whole time.
First - visualization. Whenever I'd visualize that ideal partner, it was always from a third party point of view, i.e. I was looking at him and myself, like on a picture or a video. I realized I needed to be in that "video", looking at him, interacting with him.
Second - feeling. Every time I played that video in which I saw me and him together, I always saw myself as a "better version" of me. I wore clothes I didn't really have, had a haircut I liked but didn't have, a better job, a better overall situation in my life. That translates to one thing - like I'm not worthy of love and ready for love here and now, as I am. Like I need something else ("better") to be ready and deserve it. While there was nothing wrong with wanting to improve my life, it has nothing to do with love itself.

The moment I realized this was a turning point for me. I set an alarm clock for five minutes and decided that, until it goes off, I'm gonna see myself with "Him" (whoever he may be) as I am, here and now, and feel the excitement over that love, and feel that I'm worthy of it here and now.

I don't remember how many times I did it. Maybe once or twice, definitely not many times. But, keep this in mind, when that happened, I had that list for a very long time, and I spent several months doing some energy and visualization exercises (it wasn't meditation, but it was definitely in line with LOA and the skills it requires). So, I was probably more equipped to attract something that most people would be. If you don't practice such things, but you practice meditation, it's ok, as I'm sure you'll be equally equipped with skills acquired through meditation.
Long story short, I met "Him" shortly after this visualization (he fits literally everything from the list), we got to know each other, talked a lot, flirted a lot and after a while we got together, and we still are (this happened over a year ago).

But here's the best thing, and probably the most magical thing about this whole process: once I did that visualization for the first time, it felt sooooo good that a huge part of my desire was kinda forgotten. I didn't stop wanting love, I just didn't stress over it, I felt like stressing over it in the past was a total waste of time (and I stressed over love a lot in the past). I decided that I don't wanna waste my time on gloomy thoughts, and it made me a lot less lovesick. I definitely agree that love comes when you least expect it.

Since you posted this over six months ago, you may have attracted your ideal girl by now, but if you haven't, I hope you can learn something from my experience. Either way, it may be helpful to someone else out there.

I think this is helpful even for people who are already in relationships. That's at least my opinion, since I learned that I put the worst energy in a relationship when I'm clingy and demanding. And things tend to go my way naturally when I'm just being relaxed about it, without any demands.
Once you attract the love you want you see it's not the end of your quest, it's rather a new beginning. By now I have came to a conclusion that the only way you can be truly happy in a relationship is to be truly happy on your own as well. And that's the responsibility that every person has on their own.