Hi Pan,
first let me just say that I cannot imagine what it must feel like to have to deal with sex abuse from the past for so long and because of your determination to move forward from this I'm sure you will succeed.
I have suffered in the past as we all have in a variety of ways and meditation has allowed me to realize how I created my own story, let go of the past, live in the moment and be free to make good choices now.
Now, here's something I believe to be of great importance and it's not particularly to do with meditation. Yes, meditation has helped me tremendously and I am so thankful for the incredible benefits I now enjoy. That being said, I searched for years to discover how to meditate because it seemed to be the missing key for me.
And that's what it actually was, a missing key. A key I found on my continuing journey of personal growth. A long time ago, I believed that "my story" was the truth - my glass was full and I didn't realize that I needed to pour out some water to allow more in.
I have discovered there are principles and values in life that when practiced daily, create an extraordinary life. Reading books and listening to audios that teach these principles and values are a part of my daily routine that I enjoy tremendously and will continue learning from them and teaching them for the rest of my life.
It took many, many years of gentle encouragement to inspire each of my children to read and listen to personal growth material and for me personally, this is my greatest achievement. Now they each have wonderful mentors to help them to live extraordinary lives. They understand that you don't just read through many books or listen to numerous audios and think you know it all. They understand that when you read or listen again and again that you learn at deeper levels until it finally penetrates and becomes a way of life by doing little actions and small disciples practiced every day.
I could go on and on forever here but there are people who are far more eloquent than I am to listen to Pan...
Different authors and speakers relate to different people, however, the Principles and Values for succeeding in many areas of your life, whether that is relationships, career, spiritual, financial etc. all remain the same.
Here's a link to someone I love to listen to and learn from every single day...
Jim Rohn Weekend Leadership Event 24 CDs & Workbook
If people listened to this set of audios alone, what an incredible difference it would make. What's more, if enough people "got it" it could create a most awesome, ongoing and never-ending thread here
Here's one last thing that may be of help to you Pan...
In my opinion, when there has been too much suffering from someone it may be impossible for you to personally forgive them. Here's what you can do though...
Each day for the next few weeks, find a quiet place, light a candle or tealight, close your eyes and visualize a white tent. Step into it with the person you may not be able to forgive - visualize seeing descriptive words of feelings that you experienced such as loss of trust, anxiety, guilt, shame, anger etc. and then visualize the white tent floating to a greater power that can forgive anything and everything for you. Perhaps a greater power for you is the Universe or God or something else. Whatever power you believe in, pass it on to them. Leave the candle to burn (in a safe place) don't blow it out. You may find that your visualization changes from day to day and that's ok.
I hope this helps Pan and as always, I wish you an abundance of peace and joy
