The Meaning of Acceptance - Getting Through Difficult Situations
It was a beautiful early morning this morning, some of the sea fog had drifted in and there was a light covering of dew over my back lawn. I sat there meditating, feeling everything around me and being aware with all of my senses.
I felt the soft rays of the sun on my back, could hear the birds in my neighbours yard and could smell the freshness of the day. But then I felt something strange on my arm, it was tickling and itching me at the same time and I realised, it was a fly. I didn't open my eyes, or swat it away, instead I tried to bare through the comfortableness. I felt the fly crawl up and down my arm, noticed it when it stopped still and felt its little no more.
I thought the fly had flown away as I could no longer feel it on my arm and I continued to meditate. After another 10 minutes, when my meditation was over I slowly opened my eyes and saw that the fly was still on my arm, and the itchiness had come back again. I then realised that once I had accepted that the fly was on my arm I began to not notice it any more. I though it had simply flown away but it was still there.
This prompted me to write a post on the meaning of acceptance, we need to learn to accept things in life. This is a common problem that many people have. If there is a reoccurring memory in which you had a fight with a partner or friend stop thinking of ways in which you could have said something different, or out-witted them. You can't change it, instead accept your fight and let it go, next time you see them just apologise for letting your actions out of control. Only after you have accepted the issue is when you can truly push it out of your mind.
What I find helpful if I am getting emotionally involved in a past situation through my memories of the event is I sit down and think about it in an objective manner. I take my time and think about it, whether it is for 10 minutes or 2 hours, I just think about the event and what happened. When I find myself accepting the event and knowing that I cannot change it I meditate for some time and clear all of my thoughts and be at peace.
If it doesn't seem to work afterwards then repeat the process the next day. This always works for me and lets me accept the event without becoming emotionally involved in the process. I hope this helps some of you who may be going through a difficult time.
If you have any other questions or queries then simply leave a comment and I'll get right back to you.
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