Advice needed

[Cathi349]

Hi everyone, I have loved reading about people's experiences with the LifeFlow series and the Law of Attraction. I too have watched the Secret movie and read the book. I have tried hard to adopt it into my life, but find that I am constantly returning back to having my sad, negative feelings despite my efforts to be positive and gracious. Does anyone have any tips for how I can become stronger in this? Also, with using LifeFlow (which I just bought a week ago), does anyone have any advice on how to best utilize the program? I have never meditated much before because I found it extremely difficult. I'd appreciate any help! Thanks!!

[pollyanna]

Hi Cathy, the best way to utilise LifeFlow is to follow the fast-track. It is so easy and enjoyable. Just stick with it and you will be amazed at the difference in your life. Don't miss doing the gratitude exercise every day and treat yourself to Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" and read Michaels reports in "Learn how you can benefit from Project Meditation"

I wish you happiness and joy on your amazing journey of self discovery

[AirFiero]

I was in the same boat with regard to the LOA. I felt something was holding me back, or keeping me from really going forward with it. I happened upon a copy of The Sedona Method, by Hale Dwoskin, one of the teachers from The Secret. He teaches about learning to let go of emotions and subconscious blocks that hold us back from really using the LOA. It's hard for me to describe, but I've found that it helps a lot to go forward with the LOA.

[Alison88]

Hi there

I have recently started using the Fasttrack with Lifeflow (and am completly new to meditation) and, like you, am looking for a way to help me go forward with all the fantastic advice from 'The Secret'. After one month of listening to LF10, I know it is making a difference and cannot agree enough with Pollyanna about the benefit of the gratitude exercise, which I make sure I also listen to daily.

I recently purchased a copy of the Sedona Method and have also found it to be extremely enlightening on just how easy it is to let go of negative emotions.

Wishing you all the very best.

[Karly]

Hi Cathi,

I know this is an old thread but I wanted to add my thoughts. I have the same experience, and I feel that my main problems was that even though I know the Laws of Attraction work, I felt that I didn't deserve it - I felt that I had done too many bad things in my life to deserve anything, and there are people far worse off than me. We can tell ourself day in and day out the things that we are grateful for, but we often forget how much we contribute to the world that others are grateful for. I have bipolar disorder and it's not something that the world is very forgiving of, but when I have episodes I have to remind myself that, when I am well, I contribute a lot to the world, and I've helped a lot of people and have helped create a lot of jobs for people (I work in getting small projects and operations off the ground). I recently read this story and it really helped put things in perspective:

A Water Bearer in China had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole, which he carried across his neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years, this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots of water to his house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes my water to leak out all the way back to your house."

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, we would not have such beauty."

We need to learn to look at out perceived flaws in a more realistic and altruistic light. And you are aware of a roadblock in your progress, which is progress in itself.

So keep your gratitude journal, but remember that the world is grateful to have you in it!

Best of luck,
Karly

PS I totally agree with the above posts

[Cathi349]

Thank you so much for sharing that story. It is wonderful and one that I will save and read whenever I feel down. It really helps put things in perspective and helped me to realize that I need to focus on all the good I do for others rather than the negative things that others seem to do to me. Mostly because the negative things are not becuase of who I am, but because of who they are. I offer unconditional love and positive regard for all people I meet and I know I always give my all in everything I do. I do sometimes get bogged down though with how others do mis-treat me from time to time. I find myself feeling that I somehow caused it, even though I also get mad because I know I deserve so much better. I do need some advice though, on this note, how do all of you deal when people do mis-treat you? I'm in a sticky situation currently in my life in that I am 25 years old, live alone and live in a smaller town that is not full of people my age. I have met some people at work, but they seem to be more involved in their own lives and not necessarily looking for a new friend. Because of this, I am extremely lonely and so when I do find someone who is nice to me and be-friends me, I love it and end up taking any crap that they end up giving me. If I had other friends, I would completely drop these bad seeds immediately, but because I am very much alone, I find myself clinging on and feeling bad about myself because I cannot understand why this person who once treated me with respect is now being rude to me at times. I need to learn how to let go of these bad influences in my life and be okay with them, but I am struggling a ton. I always find myself missing them and feeling sad and miserable. And even worse is when I find out they are being nice and are with someone else. How do I get to a point where my worth and happiness is more important than having someone in my life as a friend? I know I deserve nothing but the best because that is how I treat others, but I always find myself taking a lot of crap from others just so that I don't have to be completely alone (and i'm speaking of friendships.. not having to have a man in my life). Do you have any advice on how I can build up my self-esteem and worth so that when people treat me this way, I can write them off and not feel bad about it again?


PS, sorry for the long post


Thank you all so much!

Cathy

[Grey]

Originally Posted by Cathi349

I am extremely lonely...but I always find myself taking a lot of crap from others just so that I don't have to be completely alone

friendship is often like the phantom sock that goes missing in the dryer. hunt for it and you'll never find it. stop hunting and relax and it magically shows up again all on its own.

i believe the so called "law of attraction" is grossly over simplified in the popular media. sometimes we draw others to us who resonate with us. but sometimes others are drawn to us who are not like us not because we drew them but because they need something positive in us, like moths to a candle. otherwise miserable people would always gravitate to other miserable people and the state of misery would forever perpetuate itself.

the universe must be more compassionate than that. i believe sometimes the universe sends miserable people into the company of happy people to lift them up. Jesus (whether you are christian or not) supposedly brought "the good news" to the world but he had a reputation for consorting with society's rejects. some remained poor and oppressed and some changed their lives around so he won some and he lost some. but at least he made a difference.

maybe you should focus on making a difference rather than making good friends. i think you would find once your focus changed in that way you would actually do both.

[Cathi349]

Thank you for the interesting perspective. When I reflected back to past experiences with people who were negative energies in my life, I can see how I have helped a couple of them and they eventually after a long time, realized themselves how much I had helped them. I will try to look at situations in that light, hopefully it will help me in the future.

[filly33]

Try embracing those sad feelings that keep coming back. Stop, turn around and look them straight in they eyes. Then, accept them, because essentially they are you. Keep doing all you are doing, but when you find yourself back where you began, realize that where you began is you, and there is nothing you can do about that. It may sound like a jail cell, but as soon as you accept those feelings and stop running away from them, they begin to show up less in your life.

I'm not a very good teacher, but I hope this helps in some way. Here is a video that has done great things with my perspective. I hope it helps. Best of luck with your self discovery.

YouTube - Accepting What Is - Sri Bhagavan

[Imed]

One very important thing to remember when dealing with the law of attraction is that the Universe (or God or whatever you want to call it) does not respond to your thoughts or to words. You cannot just tell the universe what you want, or just think of something and have it appear. The way that one can communicate with the universe is through his/her emotions. Feel the feelings of what it would be like to have the new car or whatever it is. Law of Attraction definition is "like attracts like" and more specifically, like vibrations attract like vibrations. If you are vibrating at a higher frequency and feeling lighter more positive emotions, then you will attract more things of that nature and also vice versa. So, an increase in vibrational frequency is very important and helpful not only for yourself, but also, for the everyone else because you will be reducing your negative impact (and creating a positive one) in the overall collective consciousness of humanity.

I just wanted to throw that out there.

Love,
Eric