In need of motivation

[mummytoashlee]

Hi all,

I am new to this forum, to meditation and fairly new to the LOA.

I have been reading lots of books about the LOA and have found most of them to be great and very motivational/inspirational.

My problem is that my past behaviour has been very unmotivated and i guess lazy. I am struggling to break this pattern and find that if i do not get daily inspiration from an outside source such as a good book, I quickly creep back to my old habits, negative thought patterns and defeated attitude.

I have been trying so hard and I really want to learn ways in which i can motivate myself without needing constant kicks up the butt!

If anyone can give me some advice about ways to motivate myself, inspire myself and actually keep it up for more than a day, i would really appreciate it.

Every time i start to feel and believe i am making progress, i find myself self-sabotaging and making excuses and being resistant.

I want this to work for me!!

[Montana Keith]

As was suggested on this forum back in December by Michael, you might want to take a look at "The Sedona Method" Sedona Method (official site) The Secret self-help program; self-improvement technique

I purchased the CDs and the book and it is proving really helpful. If you don't have money for the CDs right now, then you might just purchase the book to read. There are a lot of really beneficial programs to assist and encourage us. Know that you are loved and that that what will ever work best for you at this stage of your life will appear. "Keep your eyes open" so you can recognize it when it appears.

Thank you for taking time to post on this forum. I wish you peace this day. --Keith

[jsadler666]

this has really helped me on my path. in near death experiences people describe an overwhelming feeling of coming home. this earth is not my home, so i must be on vacation. i couldn't tell you how many times I've declared in the middle of a stressful vacation, "i don't care what happens. I'm going to enjoy myself, I'm on vacation damn it!" I've just adopted the same attitude in my daily life. when i feel overwhelmed i just tell myself "this is a nice place to visit, but i wouldn't want to live here." hope this helps.

P.S. if you're wondering about the 666, it's my lucky number. nothing more.

[bashmaki]

Originally Posted by jsadler666

this has really helped me on my path. in near death experiences people describe an overwhelming feeling of coming home. this earth is not my home, so i must be on vacation. i couldn't tell you how many times I've declared in the middle of a stressful vacation, "i don't care what happens. I'm going to enjoy myself, I'm on vacation damn it!" I've just adopted the same attitude in my daily life. when i feel overwhelmed i just tell myself "this is a nice place to visit, but i wouldn't want to live here." hope this helps.

P.S. if you're wondering about the 666, it's my lucky number. nothing more.

Keith has already given you probably the best pointer you could receive.
I think the Sedona Method is a very good companion for the LifeFlow system. I bought the Sedona Method book a few days ago and already notice the difference in my daily life just practicing what I've learned so far. I guess if you can justify the CD's they would be nice; but I've learned things much more difficult from a book than the Sedona Method. It seems to be very thorough as well.

Welcome to the Meditation forum.

gus

[Divinitywolf]

I haven' tried the sedona method but i subscribed to their mailing list and some useful things were emailed.
its worth doing and i agree that it'd be a good companion to lifeflow.
Books can provide basic starting points for whatever you do in life. You may think books may not be as powerful as you're just reading but the knowledge that is there is very worthwhile.

Divinitywolf

[filly33]

Don't want it. Don't make whatever IT is into an object that you can achieve. The only way you will ever experience it is if you surrender to it and allow it to be separate from you, then you will see that it can never be had but only lived. If you "have" something, it means that you can lose it, and this can never be lost.

Sorry for being so profound, it just kinda happened that way :S. Cheers.

Mitch

[Divinitywolf]

Well in direct answer to the original question, I find it hard to stick to routine also. As my life changes, aspects of what I do also change and I find myself missing out on things I originally wanted to stick to.

What I do is not to think about the present. Look towards the future and what impact what you do in the present will have. Think how pleased it will make you feel when you've accomplished something and stuck to it. You can always find time for something you truly want to do. Use knowledge and other peoples stories to really spark a deep passion within you, strong enough to motivate you forward.

Hope that helps.

[mummytoashlee]

thank you all for your advice and support.

I will definately look into the Sedona Method!

Have to keep this one short as I have a very unsettled baby on my lap!!

Thank you all again. I really appreciate it!

[Work in progress]

Hi mummytoashlee,

I'm mummy to 3 beautiful girls 2 of the twins, and as you are asking for advice I thought perhaps you wouldn't mind me sharing these thoughts with you...

How important are your needs, your name here identifies you as a parent only without anything of who you are. I realised that i had been doing it since my first babies and that i had shut out most of the rest of what it means to be me. Not suggesting that you make your bub wait when she needs you, but that you should not forget who you are seperately and connected. The things that make you you can get lost in the world of a new child.

Next...don't be too hard on yourself, sleep depravation is really harsh, as is adjusting to the changes that come with motherhood. Look at what your expectations are and think about whether they are reasonable. Then consider what advice you would give to you if you were your best friend, and try to take it. It may be that you are setting goals that are just to high in the current circumstances. Try to make smaller goals, and break them down. And reward yourself for achieving anything.

I've found lists really helpful, mostly because it keeps me more on track of what i want to achieve that day. But also the gratification of being able to cross things off the list. The pat on the back so to speak. As detailed some days as "shower, lunch, dinner, dishes etc.."

Remember it can take a couple of years for your hormones to settle back to normal after giving birth, and they affect you significantly.

You will really benefit from meditating and caring for yourself in this important phase of your life, and the wonderful thing is that your child will benefit enormously from having a mother who is aware and can access her internal source of peace, they feel what we feel, so don't get discouraged, each day is a new day, each minute is a new minute, and we are allowed to have days off from our self-help obsessions occasionally too

[Work in progress]

Oh...oh... just had to run back to the computer with another thought. Not sure if its for you or me, think its for both of us...

Have the confidence and self belief that you can seek in your heart the next step in your path and take it, well.

I have spent all my life collecting "tools" to put in my bucket to use to help myself and with the help of someone i admire i realised that the time has come to start using them consistently instead of taking them out and showing them to people saying "ohhh look at my shiny great tool".

Man I hope this makes sence, what I'm trying to suggest is that maybe self doubt or lack of confidence is what holds us back and keeps us searching for the advice of the published people. Continually searching for affirmation from outside. Do you know where it needs to come from to be real and be integrated into daily life..?

Thanks for helping me to peal another layer of my onion i so want to put a smilie face here!!!!! Thanks!!!!