There is a whole field, called energy psychology, which has great success in helping people easily eliminate negative mindchatter, to allow more positive choices in the way you react to (and initiate action in) your life. Some useful places to try, where you can get some free "how to" downloads, are
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Opening to the Abundance of Life. I was amazed at how truly easy and painless it is to re-set one's unconscious thinking. It's like getting a virus out of your computer, which is running faulty programs in the background. This work updates the neural "software" so old, out-moded programming isn't running you anymore. The Sedona Method, which someone describes below, is a cousin to this type of work. Find the technqiue that resonates with you, maybe even find a practitioner to do a few guided sessions. Good luck! Best, Jane