Originally Posted by Cathi349
I am extremely lonely...but I always find myself taking a lot of crap from others just so that I don't have to be completely alone
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friendship is often like the phantom sock that goes missing in the dryer. hunt for it and you'll never find it. stop hunting and relax and it magically shows up again all on its own.
i believe the so called "law of attraction" is grossly over simplified in the popular media. sometimes we draw others to us who resonate with us. but sometimes others are drawn to us who are not like us not because we drew them but because they need something positive in us, like moths to a candle. otherwise miserable people would always gravitate to other miserable people and the state of misery would forever perpetuate itself.
the universe must be more compassionate than that. i believe sometimes the universe sends miserable people into the company of happy people to lift them up. Jesus (whether you are christian or not) supposedly brought "the good news" to the world but he had a reputation for consorting with society's rejects. some remained poor and oppressed and some changed their lives around so he won some and he lost some. but at least he made a difference.
maybe you should focus on making a difference rather than making good friends. i think you would find once your focus changed in that way you would actually do both.
