Originally Posted by Midnight
It's funny how whenever I post about some trouble i'm having, I seem to solve the problem later. But the posts I come back to read are usually confirmation of my own insights  |
This is true for a lot of people. Writing down your issues can help you with disassociating with the problem. The problem is still there, but it isn't "Your problem" anymore. It's not personal anymore, and then mind can work on finding a solution instead of producing thoughts like " Why is this happening to me ".
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It is more work to resist bad emotions. Bad emotions aren't even really bad, sure their painful to the body, but the simple realization that it is impermanent makes me not worry about it.
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The emotions that make us feel bad are meant that way as a warning system.
Feeling scared for instance would not be useful if it was a pleasant feeling.
If your typical caveman would have encountered a sabretooth tiger and feel good about it, mankind would not have come this far
It has to feel hugely unpleasant, to spur you into action.
No energy is wasted in nature, every emotion is there with a reason. Meaningless emotions do not exist ! That is why it is so important to listen to it.
That doesn't mean that you have to take action to every emotion by the way. The fact that the emotion is there doesn't have to mean that it is there to help you. It is more like a suggestion than anything else.
Like a person who is overly jealous, if he acts upon his feelings all the time, chances are only bigger that he will spur his partner into the arms of another.
Or cause the relationship to end.
Or someone with arachnaphobia.
Suppose you are driving topspeed on a highway, and have an arachnaphobic person sitting next to you. If you would say that you saw a spider in the car earlyer that day, the arachnaphobic person would be very tempted to jump out of the car, no matter how fast it is driving.
So you see, even tho you have to experience the emotion fully, taking action upon it is not essential. Observation is.
