Another way to look at it is something that was taught to me when I first started learning about Buddhism...
If you hate a person, there will still be somebody who loves that person. That person themselves cannot be the hate and the love at the same time, thus the hate and love can only exist within the persons perceiving. As such only the persons perceiving can let go of the emotions, not the person being perceived.
If you hate somebody, that somebody cannot change how you feel, only you can.
Hugs
Giles
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